Beware of the ‘Diet Terrorist’
How to spot a Diet Terrorist. Ah, the Diet Terrorist – your dieting frenemy. (Yep it’s a word; apparently it’s a cross between a Friend and an Enemy). Pull up a chair and let’s talk about handling them. Did you see the Netflix Series ‘The Queen’s Gambit’, all about the game of chess? Discovering, and then successfully handling, a “Diet Terrorist”, requires skills which share a few of the characteristics required for playing a game of chess.
They will sabotage Your Diet
Dieting is a journey, and during that journey there may well be a few bumps in the road. To avoid the occasional hiccups along the way the dieter needs to be prepared. More mentally than physically, for when they come across a Diet Terrorist. Whatever you do, don’t for one second think that you will be spared. It is a fact that at one level or another, they will come for you, they always have and they always will.
Friends Disguised as Terrorists
The terrorists will, at least most of the time, be in disguise. They will resemble your loved ones, your family, or even your partner. Maybe they will surface as old friends, or new friends. They may take on the appearance of work colleagues, but worst of all they may take on the role of a ‘specialist’ in their chosen field.
How To Spot A Diet Terrorist
Often They Are Innocent
One thing you need to be aware of is often they are innocent; they don’t know what they are doing. You may think they are blind to your ambitions, dreams, aspirations and goals around weight loss. Before we move on, it may help you if we take a look at the training that a Diet Terrorist is given. Because if you know their game, like in chess, you will have a better chance of remaining in control.
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They Are trained to Mislead You.
It states, in the ‘DT’ training manual. As a DT, your goal is to use your learned skills to scare followers of weight-loss diets, into giving in, into eating in abundance. The dieter must believe that you care for their wellbeing. You must instil in them that everything you say and do is for their good, not yours. If you have to, use the encouragement of alcohol and other things to weaken their resolve.
How to Spot a Diet Terrorist
The mission of a ‘DT’ is to maximise the sense of urgency generated by invoking fear, guilt, and even shame. This enables them to demand immediate compliance. They will always make you aware of the side effects of you not following their guidance. They will tell you that there is no room for any delays, that your friends and family are worried about you.
Terrorists will always tell you that all your friends agree with them, that you really need to go out and socialise, have fun, drink shots and eat pizza, just like you used to. You already know that this will result in a complete failure and breakdown of your new weight loss regime.
How To Spot A Diet Terrorist
Sometimes you will hear statements like: “But it’s Jane’s birthday! You will ruin it for her if you don’t join us at the Pizza restaurant”. Or “You really need to eat a desert, you’re wasting away.” Sometimes a loved one will surprise you by taking you to your favourite restaurant as a reward for doing so well on your diet.
This action will of course guarantee that you will reverse your entire week’s efforts. Or maybe they will arrive home with your favourite takeaway and a bottle or two of wine. Just as a reward for sticking to your diet of course!
How To Spot A Diet Terrorist
The big gun they often fire is the announcement that you and some friends are going away on holiday together. The sting is that everyone’s very excited as it is an all-inclusive holiday. As well as a selection of free restaurants, it has a 24-hour free pizza buffet, and, of course, it includes unlimited free alcohol, from dawn to dusk…..
OK, maybe all this sounds a little ‘Tongue in Cheek’. And you’re right, of course! But, in all honesty, diet terrorists, at some level, do exist…
Social Events Can Be A Pain
We know that for many people just starting out on a serious diet, social events of just about any kind bring on a ‘cold-sweat’. Just the mention of them can fill the new dieter with dread. The dieter knows that social eating can be a nightmare. Sitting at a table surrounded by friends, with no exit route in view, and a menu placed in front of them, can often resemble a rapidly arriving Tsunami.
How to Spot a Diet Terrorist
If they are serious about losing weight, the new dieter needs to surround themselves with friends who will support them with their weight-loss goals. After all, if someone really loves and cares for you, they would want you to happy and healthy, and do everything possible to make it happen.
Never Negotiate With Terrorists
The best way to deal with Diet Terrorists, those who unknowingly perhaps, try to lead you off track, is to either spend some time to educate them around what you are trying to achieve, and the method you are using. Explain to them that they can either help you or get in the way, their choice.
Become A Detective
The other technique is to learn to anticipate who they are in advance. Diet Terrorists have the habit of trying to force their views on to others. You can best deal with them by insisting that you will make your own decisions about what and when to eat, and refusing to talk to them about food choices at all. Stay strong, stand your ground, and don’t be swayed!
Keep What You Know A secret
So, you may be thinking this is all a little over the top. And you’re right, of course you are! But you will need as much knowledge as possible to succeed, and just be aware that some people may not be as helpful as you expected.
Stopping Smoking and Dieting
When I was first training in therapy, I did a course based around helping people to Stop Smoking. I remember the lecturer explaining how, when a person stops smoking, their friends who are still smokers, sometimes feel threatened. One of their group has “broken out, become free, and taken control”, so to speak. It makes the existing smoker look weak in front of other non-smokers. Having worked with over a thousand weight loss clients, I have occasionally seen a similar scenario develop around successful dieters!!
How To Spot A Diet Terrorist
Top Three Questions
I can identify my partner as a DT. Is this normal, and why is he sabotaging my efforts?
ANSWER: To be completely honest with you, your partner probably has no idea that he is having a negative effect on your weight loss efforts. His natural instinct is to make sure you are well provided for. It is highly likely that on your first date he took you out for dinner, he has maybe been doing it ever since.
Without sounding patronising, what he probably needs is educating. He needs to understand exactly what you are striving to achieve, and more importantly, why. Once he understands that your weight is having a negative effect on your level of confidence and feelings of wellbeing, if he cares for you, then he will help.
How to Spot a Diet Terrorist
If all my friends are DTs, what can I do? I’ll have no friends left!
ANSWER: It is the same as the answer above, educate them, take your time. Except….Do make sure that they are saying, and doing things for the right reason. Remember my comments earlier about the so called, friends of non-smokers. I remember a client at our clinic a few years back, she had managed to get to her target weight, resulting in her being a perfect size ten. To celebrate she went with her friends on holiday to Ibiza.
The next time I saw her she told me that at some levels the holiday had been a disaster. Apparently she had received more than her share of positive interest from the guys on the beach. A couple of her ‘chubby’ friends were not impressed.
So, what is the opposite to a DT? Surely not everyone is out to “Get Me!”
ANSWER: You are completely correct. Of course not everyone is out to get you! Hopefully most people want to help. The opposite of a DT is exactly that, a friend or family member who has your best interests at heart. Someone who really wants to understand what you are trying to achieve, and knows in detail how they can help you. Read our dedicated page around Psychology and Weight Loss
Below is a selection of weight-loss tips that everyone can start using straight away. And, if you enroll in the My Weigh Less Course, you will learn many more of our helpful tips and techniques about how to achieve successful, permanent weight loss.
Tip No. 1 – Eat Slowly and Mindfully!
A growing number of studies have consistently found a correlation between speed of eating and weight, so it is officially accepted now that faster eaters are definitely more likely to become overweight. Studies have also shown that people are much more likely to eat more when their eating is mindless, as opposed to mindful. So, make meal times an occasion by sitting down at a table, with no distractions. Then eat slowly and savour every mouthful. You will naturally eat less food and also find it easier to lose weight as a result!
Tip No. 2 – Stay Away From Sugar and Highly Processed Foods!
It’s a fact that sugar and highly processed foods have addictive properties! So much so, that many people find that once they start eating these foods, they literally can’t stop. And, of course, if you’re making such poor food choices, this in turn will make it almost impossible for you to lose weight. So, our advice is to choose healthy, unprocessed foods and limit the amount of sugar you consume. As a result, you will have far more control over how much you eat and also how much weight you can lose.
Tip No. 3 – Eat Your Favourite Foods on the Plate First!
You may not be aware of how important this tip is, but the order in which you eat your food can actually have a big impact on how much you consume! It’s quite common for overweight people to “save the best til last” when eating. In other words they only eat their favourite food right at the end. It’s not so surprising then, that they also tend to eat everything on their plate, regardless of how uncomfortably full they feel. Because, of course, they don’t want to miss out on the “best bit”!
However, our advice is to eat your favourite things first. Not only will you enjoy it more, but it’s also much easier to stop when you’ve eaten just the right amount and leave the rest on the plate.
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How To Spot A Diet Terrorist
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